So. You want to learn how to write from a male pov?
We have prepared a list of steps for you.
Yes, You Can Learn How to Write From a Male POV
Writing from the POV of a different gender isn’t as challenging as it might seem; it simply requires an understanding of universal human experiences and emotions. While men and women might express feelings differently, the core motivations—like love, ambition, fear, and insecurity—are relatable to everyone.
By focusing on personality traits, unique experiences, and individual perspectives rather than stereotypes, authors can create authentic characters regardless of gender. Observing real people, listening to dialogue, and understanding the character’s worldview makes it easy to slip into any perspective with confidence.
Learn How To Formulate Your Character’s Thoughts
To write a romance book from a male POV, focus on how your character thinks and what shapes his perspective.
Start with his expectations—what does he want, and how does society shape his actions and reactions? In many cultures, men are taught to behave differently from women, often feeling pressure to make firm decisions and “stand by” them, which can impact his sense of self. Understand that he experiences the same emotions as women, but his ways of expressing and handling them might be different due to social expectations.
Once you know his goals, think about the options he sees and how he might respond based on his background and experiences.
Speaking of Men and Women
Words are a writer’s primary tools, and you must use the right ones to speak as a man. It’s simplistic to say that men are more direct than women, but it’s a place to start.
Again, this is a profoundly cultural issue. If you have the time, do a little academic research into the linguistic differences between male and female communication.
They utilize different vocabularies, pronouns, and much more to navigate tricky situations, express feelings, or get out of trouble.
Write Outside Your Comfort Zone
Do you know how awful it is to read a story about a woman that a man writes, and she’s just weirdly too good or too evil, like her gender has bleached away part of her character?
Yeah. Make a note: don’t do that with male characters.
If there’s something most men do that makes you uncomfortable, don’t try to bury it just to make yourself more comfortable.
Dig into the weird, the bad, and the sweet. Get a full character, and don’t let their gender create blank spots as you idolize or demean them.
Interview and Research for a Deeper Understanding
As with any other group of people, the best way to understand men is to listen.
Talk to men in your life and ask questions about how they’d react to being stranded on an island, swarmed in the zombie apocalypse, or ditched by a girl they thought had romantic feelings for them.
The more information you have, the easier it will be to write from the male perspective.
You can constantly perfect his dialogue and thoughts in revisions. Male beta readers will help! Don’t let a different point of view hinder your muse. You’ve got this. Now go write a thing.
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